Updated: Mar 1, 2020
I recently had a conversation with someone who told me that a mutual acquaintance declared that the insights and thoughts I share online are “just a bunch of cliches.”
I’ll admit that really stung at first. I found myself wondering whether the affirmations, inspirations and truisms that stir me so much that I can’t wait to shout them from the rooftops don’t really resonate with others. Or that maybe I’m not really being as authentic as I believe I am and everyone can just see right through me.
Are you with me on any of this?
Then I read this passage in the most amazing book You Are a Badass by Jen Sincero (seriously, read this book!):
“I have a friend who had the word ‘Duh’ tattooed on the inside of her upper arm in homage to the fact that all of our big ah-ha moments are no-brainers; ‘Fear is a choice!’ ‘I am lovable!’ ‘Don’t worry, be happy!’ Every time she high-fives, or lifts her arm to see if she needs a shave, she gets reminded of how often the sublime lies waiting in the obvious. [emphasis mine]
You know countless of these truisms of which I speak, you’ve heard them or thought them a million times, but when they finally sink in and you ‘get it,’ they suddenly become earth-shattering news.”
Ummmm yeah. I let that sit with me. And I realized a few things...
I’m not doing this for you.
When I decided to completely pivot my advertising career and go into business for myself as a coach, the #1 reason may surprise you. It wasn’t so I could “change the world” or “make a difference.” That was actually the #2 reason. The #1 reason was so that I could take full advantage of my potential. So that I could be in control of my life. So that I could decide what I was worth earning. Dictate my own schedule. Create whatever I wanted, whenever I wanted, and be content in the knowledge that the only one I needed to please with all of it is me.
To create my own life, on my own terms, and to share the Truth I’ve discovered with the world simply for the joy of expression.
Now, all that said, of course I want to make a difference. It was, after all, a powerful motivator to do what I do. But I also know that my message will call to my people. The ones who are seeking something more, desperate to step into their amazing potential, and motivated to make some massive changes to that end. And they just need a little help. And what I share is a beacon for them.
And as a side note, if you haven’t figured it out yet, most of the things I write and share are created because I’m the one who needs to read and internalize them.
I’m not for everyone.