it's not me, it's you.

Updated: Mar 1, 2020


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I was mindlessly scrolling through Twitter one night this week, and came across a tweet from a fierce female CEO I follow: Sally Bergesen, founder of women’s running apparel maker Oiselle (I’m a huge fan!). 


Sally was musing about why a lot of people run with their phones, and threw in her own opinion.


What happened next was a Twitter storm. A lot of people simply shared the reasons they choose to run with phones - to take pictures, listen to music/podcasts/audiobooks, use or be reachable in an emergency. 


But a small handful of women read something into the tweet and felt the need to go on the offensive. Like these (the super curious can read more here)...



To be honest, the tweet landed on me in an odd way. My initial reaction was self reflective. I make no secret that I have a love-hate relationship with technology. I believe (as Sally also noted in her follow-up Twitter thread) that technology is getting in the way of authentic connection with others. If you think about it, this very article is kind of proof of that, but I digress.


I immediately went to a reflective place...


Hmmm, what would it look like if I went on a run without my phone? When have I ever relied on my phone for safety when out on a run? Does this mean I’m too tech dependent? 


But as I scrolled through the other replies, I was surprised by other reactions. Because it didn’t even occur to me that I was being judged in any way by Sally’s tweet (Hello? She doesn’t even know me!), I was completely curious about these responses from people who took offense.


And so I consulted a friend (cuz that’s what we do, right?)...What did she think about the tweet? And she said, well, it did seem a little “judgy,” but she personally wasn’t offended. 

But then I told my friend this